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Romantic Valentine’s Day Date

Valentine’s Day is coming up:) The day where a lot of girls are looking forward to getting nice presents from the boys, and going on romantic dates.  For make-up I have a video for you:) Well, for those of you who want to look great on this special day (without fail) I suggest you give this look a try.  Check it out

 

However, today I’m not here to talk about what products I used (because I already put all the products used in the video;)) but I’m here to talk about what are some things you should know before you go on a date:) **Especially first date with a guy**

Outfit:

It’s more appropriate to go with “less sexy” dresses (you can definitely save that for later and surprise him) but looking clean and feminine is my best advice.  Although you don’t usually put on one piece regularly, but if this is your first date with a guy, showing him your feminine side is important (heck he might as well go out to eat with his just girl friend if he’s looking for girl who wears jean on the first date)…Not like it’s something you have to, but if this is your first date, you wanna make him want to see you again.  And dressing nicely wouldn’t kill you:)
Food:

If I would suggest, ordering something that is easy to eat wouldn’t hurt (easy to eat I mean less messy).  For example sushi, sandwish, pasta, etc.  would be appropriate.  Try not to go for Indian curry or Charle’s Jr hamburger on the first date.

 

Conversation:

Try to keep the topic happy and less intimate.  Don’t go into your private life just yet (for example: ex. boyfriend, family problem, how was your drunk experience)  That would definitely freak him out.   Try to ask how your partner as well (try to avoid being the only one talking, if the guy is interested in you he will ask).   If you are looking for what to talk, try narrow the topic to: What’s your hobby? Do you do sport? What is your favorite place to hangout? Do you like traveling? Where was the best place you have been?….all that jazz:)

Paying:

Normally the guy would pay for the first date, but please try to at least offer.  He may deny but just say that you will treat him back next time (it is always nice to do that anyway) and plus you will have an excuse to meet him again.  But guys always hate when it comes to paying some girls would just sit there and play with their phone or would go to the toilet then expect him to pay.  Kindly thank him for treating you the meal would be nice too.

 

After a date:

Please try to avoid texting him or calling right after you and him part.  It wouldn’t kill to have the guy do his job and text you.  It’s not the guy’s job to text you first, but a gentleman would know that he has to (at least ask if you are home safely)…but by any chance that he doesn’t text, you can send him text at night and say thank you for the nice date and that you had a great time (whether you do or not, it is always good to thank people:)

 

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“It’s Complicated” – What??

 

Have you ever been in a situation where you don’t know what you are to the guy? It all seems that you’ve been on dates, you talk to each other on the phone or text, and no matter how you look at it people say you are like couple.  But your guy doesn’t seem to make it clear to you what kind of relationship you guys have.

 

What to do??

How long has it been? If it has only been only a month, you might wanna spend more time going on more dates.  Try not to rush in and clarify what it is.  If you ask for him to clarify too soon, it would freak the guy out.  As you may know, a lot of guys are afraid of commitment.  And when you rush in too fast too quickly it could scare him away.

 

If it has been longer, you may need to bring it up to him.  Not in a serious manner like “We need to talk” but in more of a casual manner like “I’ve been thinking, since we’ve been seeing each other for some time…” Be prepared for disappointment too though..

Guys may say “I’m not ready for commitment” or “I like us this way” etc…If those are the answers he’s given you, I suggest you to stop…Even though you hope for him to change his mind a long the way..it is not likely that he will..(I’m not saying that there’s no chance, but it’s very rare) And if you continue to go on dates with him, it’s only gonna get you emotionally attached to him (Women are more emotional than men after all) and you could eventually get hurt. You could be saying that “Right Ploy, easy for you  to say” But trust me, I have been in that situation before where I expected a guy to change his mind after getting to know me better.  But chances are, you are gonna get emotionally involved and start hoping for something that you know is not there to begin with.

 

It is better to cut it short than to drag it on just to hear the typical break up lines when you’re not even dating to begin with! Or it could be worse, the guy could magically disappear on you.  And when that happens what do you do? A woman instinct would tell you to keep calling, texting, asking around if anyone has seen the guy, facebook stalking, etc.  AND girls…there you find yourself a stalker. Even it is human nature to wonder…

 

What just happened?? What’s going on?? But a guy will automatically regards you as clingy, a stalker, crazy bit_h, or whatever between those lines.  Even when you didn’t intend to be or you are merely just asking for reason…trying to understand…but trust me, you are not gonna get any (at least real reasons why he acts the way he does)…

 

SO I suggest..it is better to cut it fast, when you find yourself in a “complicated” relationship with a guy who doesn’t want to commit or “Likes the relationship just the way you guys are.  If you ever get the chance to meet those guys…(or at least this is what I would tell myself back in the first day I met him or when he told me those things above) “Walk the hell away, girlfriend” Don’t waste your time with someone who’s not gonna treat you with full respect.  There are plenty of guys out there who will be more than willing to take you out like a man and commit to you the way you deserve.

 

Until Next Time, Take very good care of your self:)

 

Ploy

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